I have had many conversations with other Asian Americans about dating another Asian person or opting for dating non-Asians altogether. I have heard things from all ranges of the spectrum from: "Dating an Asian guy feels like I'm dating one of my cousins." Or "I'm just not attracted to Asians." Or other stereotypical lines that sound strangely fed to us from the outside racist society regurgitated through our own mouths. 

Some Asian women feel that sexism from a white American is much 'less' or 'better' than from an Asian guy. Of course, that all depends on the individual and their upbringing and their personal traits and decisions in life. We all are brought up with certain cultural customs and habits. It is up to us now as adults (with free choice) whether we choose to implement or pass them on or not. If we do choose to pass them certain patterns that are generally oppressive to one gender and do not make rational sense, then it really is the individual's own choice and does not have anything to do with his/her race/ethnicity. 

Certainly I have Asian female friends who only want to date white guys, or black and latino (just not Asian) and I do not judge them for it. We all come into our personal decisions because of past experiences, good and not so good, and that is not for someone else to judge how we then came to our present conclusions from those past good and bad experiences. However, I simply think it is interesting and would behoove us all to take an honest look at how we came to those policies. 

Speaking for myself, I have at various points in my life chosen to avoid Asians, then prefer Asians, then prefer Latinos, then not prefer Latinos, and now prefer anyone of any background who truly worships me just as I am. And I can pinpoint each of those rigid decisions to certain past hurtful experiences---for example, an abusive Chinese dad, thus deciding as a teenager I would never date an Asian (never mind Chinese), and so on and so forth. 

It is certainly interesting to observe and gossip about different group's common patterns. For example, I think --in general-- East Coast Asian men and West Coast Asian men have certain unique differences. If you find out what those are you might be able to have a pretty good guess as to certain traits he may have if you meet a West Coast guy in New York. He may not have those general traits, but it is very possible that he will have them to a certain degree. And that is very fun, when you're right. 

As for mixed Asian couples, that's for next time! Toodles!