The other title for this blog is: How to make the most of your first Speed Dating experience. For example, if you're usually introverted, give yourself a pep talk beforehand that, of course, everyone in the room likes you and thinks you're cool. And smile, smile, smile. That is one thing I learned from waitressing in Hawai'i is how to show the aloha spirit and that is to smile constantly. It's a skill. No matter if it's conjured up and not a natural instant reaction. Practice smiling spontaneously and constantly at home. A real, genuine, aloha smile. Not frozen to your face kind. Like Vanna. People like you more and feel more comfortable when they see you smiling at them. It relaxes people. And even relaxes you doing the smiling. So, practice your genuine smile at home in front of the mirror. It will do you wonders. 

And then there's the basic things like brush your teeth after lunch that day. Have mints handy. (Not gum as that will seem rude when trying to talk to people and will get in the way of your drink). You're meeting people for the first time. Dress well. This may seem obvious. But if you are coming straight from work---which most of us are---pick an outfit that is professional, but not too boring. Just think the person you want to impress that night will be meeting ten to twenty (!) other people that night and you may only have a few minutes to make an impression on them. How do you want to stand out from the crowd? A funny holiday tie? A bright red dress? A turquoise pant-suit? If you know you are not the best in choosing the outfit most flattering to you---ask the opinion of a fashionista friend. You are going on an interview. Every detail matters from your dress to your words and your gestures. 

Have fun dating!